sometimes i look too hard at the big things when…

Posted On August 6, 2009

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…the best thing I can do is love You

Last summer I feared.  That’s it.  Not a complete sentence, you’re thinking?  In my head it is.  I feared.  Moving out.  On my own.  No friends.  New job.  Small town.  It had all the makings of me in the fetal position in the corner of my apartment eating Ben and Jerry’s and watching non-stop episodes of Extreme Makeover:  Home Edition.

But I think because of that, I fought against that fear.  Before it even happened, I fought it.  I knew my homebody tendencies and I knew my history with anxiety and depression and so I fought it. 

And nothing happened.  It was great!  I painted my house bright green and aqua blue and obnoxiously orange and I put a picnic table in my dining room.  I planted some flowers and I rode my bike wherever I could.  I ate whatever I wanted for dinner.  I learned why mom always told me to eat my vegetables.  I repainted my house light gray and tan. I opened my doors to old friends and we spent nights on the front porch reminiscing back to our lives when we all lived in the same mile circumference and ate dinner together every night.  You know, reminiscing back to 2 months before that…and if any time was spent indulging in my Ben and Jerry’s, it was only out of pure joy.

I remember being so, so thankful to God that he brought me through that summer alone and now that the fall was here, students were back and there were things to attend and plan and decide and I think, that just for a bit too long, I let my guard down.  I started worrying about my role as not a student, not yet an adult.  (Cue Britney Spears).  And all of a sudden I lost my focus.  My fears became a reality and I experienced some of the hardest few months I ever have.   I would set foot in my house and tears would immediately come.  My birthday was the worst of them all.  I worked 12 hours that day, got pulled over by campus security on my way home, and spent the rest of the night crying and watching the Gilmore Girls.  You know, that episode where Rory is so overwhelmed and she can’t get a hold of Lorelai and ends up weeping on Dean’s shoulder?  That is my go-to episode when life is more than I think I can handle.  And that night I connected with Rory.  I connected with that feeling of not thinking you can deal with life and just needing your mom but she’s not around anymore.  But I didn’t have my Dean.  And I was alone.  On my birthday.   And that fact circled in my head more than I should have let it and the next day I realized that I had given up fighting.  I had lost the battle with my fears.  But at that point, I didn’t really care.  It took a few more months to start fighting again.

I started figuring out my place and tried hard to focus on the fact that God had called me here.  What a blessing to know that I was where God wanted me to be.  I held that in front of me as a badge of honor and leaned on it like a cane when life got trying again.  I repeated one verse over and over and over until I considered getting it tattooed on my foot as a forever reminder of this time in my life.  That verse carried me through the darkest of days. 

Do not despise the day of small things, for the LORD rejoices to see the work begin. 

Do not despise the day of small things.  My life seemed to be a chain of days of small things.  But the Lord was rejoicing over them. 

Somewhere around Christmas or maybe later in the winter I broke.  After a night out with friends, I was driving 2 of them home and they asked a question about my life this past year and I lost it.  2 of us spent a couple of hours in that car that night and I unloaded.  I was already coming out of that funk from the fall, but the pain was still fresh in my mind.  He told me I should never have gotten to the point of walking into my house and crying.  I should lean on my friends, he said.  He said God was doing great things in my life and I was surprised to find that I believed him.  God had called me here for a clear purpose and I had to rest in that. 

It’s a year later.  A new school year.  I already know I have been complacent and I have put my guard down.  Summer is safe.  But this fall I must keep fighting.  And now, I’m excited for the fight.  Because I know I can win.

Never doubt in the darkness what God has told you in the light.


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